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Men, Poetry and Therapy
Don’t understand poetry? Perfect. As a therapist who works primarily with men and couples, I find music and poetry to be essential tools. So many of us don’t “understand” poetry, which is its great...
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Convalescing in the World of Love and Hurts
“Rest is … a sabbath to make sense of what has happened.” They used to immobilize ankles when they were sprained Wrap them up, maybe even put them in a cast But now they think that getting them back...
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Are You Man Enough for Therapy?
It takes courage and strength, but it’s worth learning how to benefit from a therapeutic relationship. I know now, more than 25 years after I first walked into a therapy office and fifteen years after...
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I Will Not Die [Poem]
Denial is the first stage of grief. I will not die Why do you keep talking about this Why do I keep listening to you, as if it mattered It makes me feel sleepy I will not die, and if I do I won’t know...
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Men, Strength, and Death
True strength does not require denial of reality, but suppleness in meeting it. An individual therapy client of mine told me last year about his soon-to-be-ex wife’s statement of disappointment and...
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Facing Powerlessness
Steve Milan talks about the single thing he hears most often as a therapist. “For a man, I think helplessness is the most terrifying thing we can feel.” I have said this as I sit with many of my male...
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